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Readers Respond: How Have Your Supported a Loved One With Cancer?

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Updated May 02, 2014

Do you have a loved one with cancer? How have you shown them support during their diagnosis and treatment? What are some things you have done that have helped them? Whether you have been a shoulder to cry on or have taken on tasks like lawn care and babysitting, we want to know how you have supported your loved one.

Bruce's Cancer Journey

Sadly, my wonderful husband,Bruce lost his battle with prostate cancer 6 months ago. As his disease progressed he spent a lot of time in bed. I made our meals and I sat next to him and ate my meals in bed too. I never wanted him to be alone or feel lonely. I spent endless hours doing research and submitting requests to join clinical trials and finding doctors that were interested in his case. I would bring my laptop in our bedroom and did my research there so that I could always keep him company while I was trying to get him the best treatment available. I really wanted to spend every minute with him and I am so thankful for that time. I prayed with him and read the bible to him and we both strengthened our faith in God. I gave him daily massages with moisturizing creams and he never got one bed sore and the massages eased some of his pain and relaxed him and helped him sleep and it was quality time we spent talking. We kept a journal detailing our long and difficult journey as a famil
—Guest Carol Roberts

spouse

When my husband was diagnosed with cancer in 2003 it felt like doomsday. I offered all my support and felt at times so powerless and not doing enough. After surgery I assisted with all appointments and phone calls to medical offices, insurance etc. We attended the appointments together and found a cancer support group to attend. Research and talking to other cancer patients and their caregivers helped - we didn't feel so alone. In time we also decided to have individual counseling to assist our needs. It is an ongoing struggle, managing to go through re-occurance of cancer and then rejoice with the spouse when he is told he is now cancer free. The mental struggle continues, as there is always some fear in the back of the mind "what if it comes back?" I have seen marriages fall apart going through this and we feel blessed that we have been able to walk "the walk" together.
—Guest Lis L

All types of Cancer

I work as a Volunteer Cancer Counsellor and devote my Sundays to talk to patients in the Sri Lanka Cancer Society, Kandy Branch. It is something more than medication they need. You have to inspire the patient without giving false hopes. medicationm
—Guest Asoka Palliyaguruge

Mrs

I too have got my husband suffering from a rectal cancer, I accompanied him for his treatments at the Clinic for his chimoterapy seesions, radio therapy and visits to the doctors. Today I feel that I cannot do nothing while he is suffering from ache at his back and feel weak because during the all day he is alone at home as I have to go to work and when I returned back from work, I have to think what I will cook for his dinner. At night it is something impossible for me for he remained awake, going to the toilet every 15 minutes, I ask myself what can I do to help him? So you may understand that we wifes we are always trying to help our husbands but sometimes it is very difficult to do so. (when we promise during our marriage for the good or for the bad - good health or bad health).
—Guest Marie Anne

I have cervical cancer

I have been treated for cervical cancer for the last five years - I am 64 years old, the cancer is (to the best of our collective knowledge - nearly 30 years old) - I receive treatment of chemo once a week, and support/stabilizing drugs four days a week - for the past five years.... I encourage every women out there to five an excellent doctor, get checked often - I went every six months - they either didn't look or didn't see it (?) - if you still don't feel well, or there are other problems, don't wait, don't put it off, take it seriously, it is serious.
—Guest Deborah T

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